Tuesday, July 22, 2008

Passion Parties?

I was invited to a “Passion Party” with the baseball moms.

I seriously did not know what to say. I really don’t know these women at all – I just see them at practice once a week. This kind of party seems rather intimate compared to a pampered chef party.

I graciously declined. I was not comfortable attending this kind of party – even with good friends. Did I miss out on an opportunity to be a light for Christ? Or by saying no did this mean something?

Roger suggested that I go, make some friends, because honestly I am lacking in that area. My whole world is my family. I just don’t know if this is how I want to start out.

I tried to explain to my husband what kind of products are sold at these kind of parties. The hostess gave me a catalog to look at in case I wanted to order something. Just glancing through the catalog felt like porn. Maybe porn for women. The promise of romance if you get this candle or these oils. Women are wired differently for sex then men. We want connection and intimacy and not always sexual satisfaction. If you are blessed, both might happen. Men have more of a physical desire – no romance needed.

I guess that I just needed to write a post about this. This seems to be accepted in “the world.” Where do I stand? I am not a prude, yet where is the line between what is a godly discussion about sex and what is a worldly discussion? I think that one that discusses the relationship between husband and wife is good, but just taking about being “satisfied” boarders on perversion.



Cheri said...

I haven't been faced with the invitation yet, so I haven't had to make a decision.

That said, I could probably go if was only my close friends not people I didn't know. I'm easily mortified. Even Christian based discussions about this aspect of my marriage make me uncomfortable!

So - yes I would've siad no in your circumstances, but maybe not in other circumstances.

Anonymous said...

Very interesting post. I'm a Passion Party Consultant. I'm Christian with 2 children - this is what I do to stay home with them. Yes, I sell products to bring fun and romance back to a committed relationship, I don't encourage infidelity or porn. I can't speak for other consultants but I use correct terminology for parts of the body. There's ways to discuss these products without making anyone uncomfortable. I LOVE what I do. Marriage is a lot of work and we all get into a rut. If going to a party creates a dialogue between partners that's fantastic! Think of it as an investment in your relationship. I've had women who've gone through menopause ask me if there's anything that I carry that might help them since they've lost their "drive." Orders are done in a separate room or area for confidentiality. This isn't meant to be a "sales plug". I know our products have a certain connotation. Passion Parties are designed for women to see the products in a comfortable environment. If you have any questions please feel free to email: joystoys@verizon.net

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tg1234 said...

I got invited to a party on Friday. Everything you said makes a lot of sense. I was just trying to figure out what to expect. I don't want to go but feel like I have to go for certain reasons. I am not sure what I am going to do but no way do I want to touch or even look at some of the things I am afraid that will be there. I have no idea what I am going to do. Also, you were right on when you said what women want/ need and it's not something that takes batteries. The weird thing is the girl having the party isn't married and doesn't have sex.

Anonymous said...

1 Corinthians 6:9 Paul says 'Someone will say, "I am allowed to do anything." Yes; but not everything is good for you'.

Romans 12 talks about what our Christian walk should be, and for me, I couldn't go to one of these parties. I'd rather err on the side of being called a prude, than lose my ability to be an effective witness for Christ.

Anonymous said...

I have been to one of these parties before I chose Christianity for my life. I am completely aware of the mentality and the products sold. These products are what would be in pornography and a majority of them have no place in a godly marriage from my perspective.

I recently accepted an invitation to a going away party for a girlfriend moving. It quickly turned into a luau with a passion party in the works, and possibly a night out at a night club afterward.

I now feel the need to decline. I do not wish to be in a place where lust is the main topic of discussion and what is on people's minds. If I sit in the barber chair long enough I might start feeling like I need a hair cut too.

Anonymous said...

I am also a Passion Consultant who sells Passion Party Products. I feel as if I am being a witness even more to the young girls that do attend these parties and just need a good example. I talk about how I go to church and have a few jokes inserted about my beliefs in there for them to know, that yes I am a Christian. We already get a bad wrap as being prudes or boring but there are Christians that are out there that just want to spice things p a bit. We sell products that have won Nobel prizes!!! Yes i believe sex should be between a married man and woman but I also know that sometimes some fun foreplay or enchancement is not a bad thing. Keeps it fresh and focused on each other instead of venturing out.